Lorill Drummund, M.Ed., RCC

Registered Clinical Counsellor

Like many young women, I married in my 20’s, a couple of years after university. Unwittingly, I modeled my marriage after my parents' emotionally unexpressive style. As a result I was lonely, bored, and unhappy. For years, I tried to drag my husband to marriage counselling until I gave up and began to talk of divorce. At this point he was motivated (rather late!) to go for marriage counseling. (This is not an uncommon pattern.) Eventually we got divorced.

I spent several years learning about my patterns and choices through counselling and realized how helpful therapy can be. This led to an interest in counselling couples myself. I have learned ways to help people transform marriages and relationships into loving, thriving unions.

How I Work:

I use a method called Eye Movement Desensitizing and Reprocessing, or EMDR. With EMDR, clients typically experience a resolution of deep patterns of reacting to each other in a short number of sessions. Sometimes I work individually with one partner’s problems or long-standing traumas in order to alleviate and facilitate your ability to work and heal together as a couple.

EDMR has been successful in helping people to address the complications arising from:

“big T” or “shock” traumas such as major car accidents, war experiences, physical and/or sexual assault or abuse
“small T” or developmental traumas such as on-going exposure to a critical or neglectful parent, substance abuse in the family, previous separations, and other troubling incidents.

With couples, I start by getting a good picture of what is going on in your relationship. Together we will look at your strengths, your “love maps,” the nature of your friendship with each other, the bond that is between you. We also look at your style of arguing and your ability or difficulty in shifting perspective and seeing each other’s point of view.

Once we have carefully looked at what is working in your relationship and where you struggle with each other, I will help you to validate and empathize with your partner (and your partner with you). I will guide you and assist you in communicating your deeper, more genuine feelings and intentions. I will help you heal traumatic memories that prevent you from feeling close to one another and support you in maximizing your individual and relationship potential.

My Training and Experience:

I am a Registered Clinical Counsellor (#0921) with over 20 years experience working with individuals and couples. I have been working for over 10 years in private practice. I bring a degree of maturity and balance to our counselling relationship. I have:

Master of Education degree in Counselling from McGill University (Montreal, Canada)
Certified Therapist in EMDR (Level 2)
Gottman Marital Therapy training (Level 1)
Member of the BC Association of Clinical Counsellors

I have attended numerous workshops and seminars on couples counseling, including Gottman Method Couples Therapy, Imago Relationship Therapy, Collaborative Couples Therapy, and Family and Couples Therapy. In addition to counselling, I have been a teacher of counseling at the college-level many years.

I work from my office in beautiful White Rock, BC. I have appointments available Monday to Friday, including late afternoon and evening appointments.

Here’s what previous clients, group participants, and students have had to say* about working with me:
My husband has never connected with a counsellor like he did with Lorill! With her unique abilities, he was able to talk and to open up in our session like I’ve never seen before. We were able to accomplish so much together after one session. Thanks Lorill!

Name withheld by request,
White Rock, BC

Prior to working with Lorill, our interactions were always one-sided, with my wife always waiting (and becoming more and more frustrated) that I didn’t say more. She always felt so disconnected from me and I always felt overpowered by her. In our first session, Lorill immediately observed how we talked together—that I was, of course, the more quiet one and my wife was therefore always the prominent speaker—and how that may contribute to our problems.

Lorill focused on balancing our conversations more, and on identifying what was at the root of our problems and how it related to our different upbringings. We came up with a plan for taking small, individual steps to address what our problems are.

I feel more close to my wife than ever. And she is no longer the only one talking! We are comfortable talking with each other…and I realize how important it is to my wife and our relationship that I say what’s on my mind.

Name withheld by request,
White Rock, BC

*Client Testimonials for Lorill Drummund, RCC.
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